Love addiction
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Love addiction is a human behavior in which people become addicted to the feeling of love. Love addicts can take on many different behaviors. Love addiction strikes quite commonly in the modern world, however most love addicts do not realize they are addicted to love at all. Love addiction can be treated with many different recovery techniques and ways, most of which are similar to recovery from other addictions such as sex addiction, and alcoholism, through group meetings and support groups. (Bireda 5)
Love
Love could mean many things in this society; relationships are bit different from others. When somebody is in love, they attempt to keep it forever. Though many marriages can last for over 2 decades, other times, marriages only last for a year or a month. Reasons are they're not going well with their relationships or cheated by another person. The worst case scenario is breaking it up from each other; it’s not an easy task for everyone. They would have to think if they should keep their relationship or find another person to go out with. The best way to get away from the ex is to forget the past and move on towards the future. Even though love still exists inside your body but once there broke up they can't be met each other. Although love is not a mental disorder, it is something that you feel in your heart. Nobody knows why you fall in love; it depends on your decision. For those who are couples love can be serious and they can't break their promise. One big mistake can lead to bad relation and might dump that person. There are people who need love to live for the rest of their life. Sometimes asking a personal question can be a common thing. Also giving their partner respect attitude can get along and there are some who still in love but less mature. In conclusion love is a something you cannot break, if you split the heart in half, your feelings would be sad. Making good decision can be good solution to love someone.
Process
The normal process of falling into love addiction begins when a person begins to feel sympathy with another person after going through an initially innocent moment of attraction and automatically idealizes the other to the point of divinity. The individual is then blindly attached to the other person, where he is incapable of making a realistic analysis of the situation and projects in the other all types of illusion, believing the other to be the only one who can bring happiness. This process can be very quick, known by some as Cupid's arrow. Be that as it may, this can at times be simply a passing feeling that for some is necessary to achieve a more mature relationship. There are, however, those who never go past this stage of blind love. (Timmreck 12-14)
Obsession over anything can be considered the primary symptom of any addiction. In love addiction, the individual will feel needed and so insecure about himself that he attaches to the object of his affection. It is typically not normal desire of a union but a hungry insatiable power that distorts the person's perception of reality. Because of this, love addiction is simply suffering brought about by an obsession over another. (Timmreck 15)
Types
There are many different types of love addicts. Some common types include but are not limited to:
- Obsessed Love addicts: It can be a lover, a son, etc. This type of addiction comes with the inability to live independently from the other person, a feeling of possession. This type of addiction is sanctified by our culture, when in reality it is nothing more than camouflaged egotism.
- Co-dependent addicts
- Relationship addicts: It can represent itself as an addiction to the idea of having a relationship instead of a person. There are two types, those who are constantly in and out of relationships and those who will not let go of a bad relationship for the sake of the relationship enduring.
- Narcissistic love addicts
- Ambivalent love addicts
- Torch bearers
- Seductive withholders
- Romance addicts:It can represent itself as an obsession over romance itself; including but not limited to adventure and passion. People suffering of this type of love addiction worry over romantic rituals: dates, dinner, sex, and everything else that has to do with a passing romance. This often times is a representation of the person's individual fantasies. Love addicts will seek seduction and conquest but quickly tire of it. A typical example is the legendary Don Juan.
