Love–hate relationship
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This can also be simplified to say the person loves the other person/object, but hates oneself for it. | This can also be simplified to say the person loves the other person/object, but hates oneself for it. | ||
- | The term comes from the way one may love the object or person one moment, and yet the next moment feel great rage or [[hatred]] for it. For example, a computer may impress a user with amazing [[video game]] [[graphics]] one moment, only to give rise to anger when it [[computer crash|crash]]es during the game. As a colloquial expression, if someone says "I have a love-hate relationship with legal studies", what the person is trying to express is a marked [[ambivalence]] about his study of the law; parts of it are attractive, while other aspects are personally repellent. | + | The term comes from the way one may love the object or person one moment, and yet the next moment feel great rage or [[hatred]] for it. As a colloquial expression, if someone says "I have a love-hate relationship with legal studies", what the person is trying to express is a marked [[ambivalence]] about his study of the law; parts of it are attractive, while other aspects are personally repellent. |
A love-hate relationship often occurs when people have completely lost the [[intimacy]] within a loving relationship, yet still retain some [[passion (emotion)|passion]] for, or perhaps some [[commitment]] to each other. | A love-hate relationship often occurs when people have completely lost the [[intimacy]] within a loving relationship, yet still retain some [[passion (emotion)|passion]] for, or perhaps some [[commitment]] to each other. |
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A love-hate relationship is a personal relationship between humans or organizations, or figuratively between a human and an inanimate object, like a computer, a field of study, a body of ideas, or a profession, involving simultaneous or alternating emotions of love and enmity. This relationship can, but does not have to be of a romantic nature.
This can also be simplified to say the person loves the other person/object, but hates oneself for it.
The term comes from the way one may love the object or person one moment, and yet the next moment feel great rage or hatred for it. As a colloquial expression, if someone says "I have a love-hate relationship with legal studies", what the person is trying to express is a marked ambivalence about his study of the law; parts of it are attractive, while other aspects are personally repellent.
A love-hate relationship often occurs when people have completely lost the intimacy within a loving relationship, yet still retain some passion for, or perhaps some commitment to each other.
An addiction is also a kind of love-hate relationship. Another symptom of a love-hate relationship is one in which there remains a high degree of sexual intimacy, but the emotional intimacy has degraded or vanished altogether. Some in these circumstances have observed that the overall emotional feeling is not wholly unlike an actual drug addiction.
A related theme is "obligatory friendship", where usually one party feels indebted to another and forges a friendship but still holds a grudge over a particular past disappointment or set of disappointments, while the "creditor" in the relationship agrees to the nature of the relationship often for security reasons, but remains aware of the "debtor"'s grudge and feels counter-indebted until the cause of the grudge is sufficiently overcome.
The two people will refuse to accept the liking of each other or the enjoyment of one another's presence, or have some sort of previous resentment or bitterness between each other. The couple usually holds a weak grudge towards one another creating a feud between emotional depression and happily ever after.Template:Fact The relationship is held together by the hatred each person conjures when feeling incomparable to the other's perfection. This anger is the cover up for the "love" part of the relationship because the couple dislikes social knowledge of the affair. The hate is also powered by the teasing of each person while the frustration reaches its maximum level through the restriction on releasing their sexual tension and intimacy. However the relationship may be held together entirely by insecurity; the people in the relationship may believe that (for some reason or another) they are "unable to live without" one another, and knowing no other existence but with each other, choose the certainty of staying together over the risk of leaving. The two people in such a relationship are totally incompatible, but believe that they are both with the best person for themselves that they are going to get.
It can be argued that, due to the fact that the subjects love each other despite issues they have, a love hate relationship actually represents a stronger bond than a simple love relationship does. Also since a constant hatred is felt, any new issues which emerge are unlikely to put the relationship in jeopardy.
List of famous love-hate relationships in fiction
- Al Bundy and Peggy Bundy - Married With Children
- Aristophanes and Euripides -"Frogs and Poet and the women
- Arnold and Helga Pataki - Hey Arnold!
- Asuna Kagurazaka and Negi Springfield - "Negima"
- Atomic Betty and Atomic Roger - Atomic Betty
- Ayeka and Ryoko - Tenchi Muyo!
- Batman and Catwoman - Batman
- Batman and Poison Ivy - Batman
- Ben and Susan Harper - My Family
- Benedick and Beatrice - Shakespeare's Much Ado About Nothing
- Betty Cooper and Veronica Lodge - Archie Comics
- Bob and Dot Matrix - "ReBoot"
- Buffy Summers and Spike/Faith Lehane - Buffy The Vampire Slayer
- Calvin and Susie Derkins - Calvin and Hobbes
- Captain Jack Sparrow and Elizabeth Swann/Will Turner - Pirates of the Caribbean films
- Carrie Bradshaw and Mr. Big - Sex and the City
- Caitlin Todd and Tony DiNozzo - NCIS
- Church and Tex - Red vs. Blue
- Christine Campbell and Richard Campbell - The New Adventures of Old Christine
- Daredevil and Typhoid Mary - Daredevil
- Dave Lister and Arnold Rimmer - Red Dwarf
- Edward Elric and Winry Rockbell - Fullmetal Alchemist
- Elizabeth Bennet and Fitzwilliam Darcy - Pride and Prejudice
- Erik and Christine Daaé - The Phantom of the Opera
- Eva Zimmer and Edgar Zimmer - Zimmer Twins
- Florence Johnston and George Jefferson - The Jeffersons
- Foxxy Love and Princess Clara - Drawn Together
- George Costanza and Elaine Benes - Seinfeld
- Gina Russo and Christian Troy - Nip/Tuck
- Gregory House and Lisa Cuddy - House
- Grif and Simmons - Red vs. Blue
- Grim and Billy/Mandy - The Grim Adventures of Billy & Mandy
- Guts, Casca and Griffith - Berserk
- Hamlet and Ophelia - Hamlet
- Han Solo and Princess Leia - Star Wars
- Henry Jekyll/Edward Hyde and Lucy - Strange Case of Dr Jekyll and Mr Hyde
- Ichigo Kurosaki and Rukia Kuchiki - "Bleach"
- Inuyasha and Kagome Higurashi - InuYasha
- James "Sawyer" Ford and Kate Austen - Lost
- Jason Fox and Eileen Jacobson - FoxTrot
- Jean Grey and Wolverine - X-Men
- Jimmy Neutron and Cindy Vortex - The Adventures of Jimmy Neutron
- The Joker and Harley Quinn - Batman: the Animated Series
- Jonesy Garcia and Nikki Wong - 6teen
- Julia McNamara and Christian Troy - Nip/Tuck
- Juniper Lee and Ray Ray Lee - The Life and Times of Juniper Lee
- Keitaro Urashima and Naru Narusegawa - Love Hina
- Kermit the Frog and Miss Piggy - The Muppets
- Knuckles and Rouge the Bat - Sonic the Hedgehog
- Linus van Pelt and Sally Brown - Peanuts
- Liz Cruz and Christian Troy - Nip/Tuck
- Logan Echolls and Veronica Mars - Veronica Mars
- The McMahon family in World Wrestling Entertainment
- Naruto Uzumaki and Sakura Haruno - Naruto
- Noah Parker and Paloma - Atomic Betty
- Numbuh 3 and Numbuh 4 - Codename: Kids Next Door
- Numbuh 4 and Numbuh 86 - Codename: Kids Next Door
- Numbuh 19th Century and Numbuh 86 - Codename: Kids Next Door
- Pete Doherty and Carl Barât in the band The Libertines
- Ranma Saotome and Akane Tendo - Ranma 1/2
- Risa Koizumi and Atsushi Ōtani - Lovely Complex
- Roj Blake and Kerr Avon - Blake's 7
- Ron Weasley and Hermione Granger - Harry Potter series
- Rory Gilmore and Paris Geller - Gilmore Girls
- Sam Malone and Diane Chambers - Cheers
- Sakura Kinomoto and Syaoran Li - Cardcaptor Sakura
- Senbei Norimaki and Midori Yamabuki - Dr. Slump
- Shasta and Aravis in The Horse and His Boy
- Shikamaru Nara and Temari - "Naruto"
- Shinji Ikari and Asuka Langley Soryu - Neon Genesis Evangelion
- Sly Cooper and Carmelita Fox - Sly Cooper and the Thievius Raccoonus
- Sonic the Hedgehog and Princess Sally Acorn - Sonic the Hedgehog (comic series)
- Sousuke Sagura and Kaname Chidori - "Full Metal Panic"
- Sparky and X-5 - Atomic Betty
- Stewie Griffin and Brian Griffin - Family Guy
- Stewie Griffin and Lois Griffin - Family Guy
- Tsukushi Makino and Tsukasa Dōmyōji - Hana yori Dango
- Tyler Durden and Marla Singer - Fight Club
- Undertaker, The and Kane - WWE wrestlers
- Urd and Skuld - Oh My Goddess!
- Vladimir and Estragon in Waiting for Godot by Samuel Beckett
- Xander Harris and Cordelia Chase - Buffy The Vampire Slayer
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